selfishness is criticalI wrote a blog about Influence and quoted Chris Brogran and stumbled upon it today. As I read it I realized I recently learned this lesson the hard way.

 

Brian Tracy talks about the “Law of Unintended Consequences.” As a coach leading other coaches I completely backed away from all my own networking. My intention, my goal in doing so, was to allow them to step into the light, to grow and be seen. I truly thought I was doing something good. But my unintended consequence was that I was no longer relevant, my tribe thought I no longer cared. I failed to stay present.

 

By failing to stay present, to meet new people to introduce to my tribe, I also lost my Influence Factor. This is a devastating reality for someone who does it so naturally. I am committed to, and working hard to get it back. I will never make this mistake again.

 

What am I doing to remain present and relevant?

 

1-  I joined networking group, and have been consistently committed to showing up EVERY week since, Jan 1st. I do this regardless of my schedule, how much I need to get done, and how overwhelmed I might feel.

2-  I have also committed to one in person meeting for an hour with 1 to 3 people every week that are new to my circle and life. My goal is to build relationship, and truly listen.

3-  I am setting a minimum of 2 30 minute 1:1 phone calls a week with someone I have “met” recently in person, or online.

4-  I am reconnecting with my tribe, participating in their lives and successes, and sharing in their celebrations.

5- I am having more fun in my social media company participating with facebook fans on my page.

 

Chris Brogan’s quote is a powerful one, one I will never forget. One I will be sure to balance with serving others and taking care of myself. I don’t care what you do as a career, this ability to know people, to build your network is critical to having influence. SOME selfishness is critical, because it strengthens what you have to give. Without it, who will you influence? Yourself?

Ann M. Evanston is a “Chief Breakthrough Officer” teaching other Business Warriors how to slow down, and find the most unique part of their business that makes them stand out among the crowd. She has been named one of the top marketing consultants by About.com, is a guest blogger for Showcasing Women and takes pride in moving you from “blah, blah, blah” to “BOOM, BOOM. BOOM!”