Thursday night is date night for my relationship. I know; I have written about it before, I just truly believe that becoming a mental warrior is about taking care of ALL of you. I have been with my husband for a long time, okay,I know many of you’ve been with yours longer, but 17 years isn’t that bad! We have been through time together much of it very good and honestly some of it very bad. There have been trials and struggles and tribulations that we have had to work through to have a successful relationship.
We didn’t always have date night. It started about six months ago.
See, five years ago, I felt that we truly got into a “groove” with each other if you will. We were comfortable; we trusted each other, we were committed. The problem was I got too comfortable. And one day I discovered that he was not interested in this relationship as it is anymore.
Talk about scared. Sad. Overwhelmed. Freaked out. But I had to wake up and recognize the importance of nurturing my relationship.
He was willing to work on it with me too, gratefully. And that is when date night started. I’ll be honest I learned a powerful lesson: never take your relationship for granted. Never get too comfortable.
On date night we talk, we have dinner together, we ask each other a powerful open ended question and answer it, we take a dance class; we enjoy each other thoroughly. It is the most powerful and important thing in my life. People see us and think we are newly in love. THAT is the kind of relationship I always dreamed about. Not comfortable. The kind others wished they had.
And interestingly my business has been far more successful because I now step away and take care of my relationship. If you are honest with yourself do you nurture your relationship the way, it deserves? Have you neglected it because you so desire to have a successful business that it consumes your energy? Or maybe like me, you are just comfortable?
