One of the most powerful things to work on in developing self-worth, is
understanding the power of the word NO. Initially that may seem so obvious
and simple, yet often people cannot just say NO because they’re afraid of
how people will feel if they do.
Let me give an example:
Recently, I asked someone who seems to be a fan of mine (that might be just
my perception LOL) to attend an event I have coming up. I let her know about
the affordability of the tickets at that time, and sent her a personal email.
What I got back was a NO. Well, not really. What I got back was a long-winded excuse.
The funny thing is that everybody has excuses. And reality is if you really
want what’s being offered, you figure out a way. We all know that. Ever
really liked someone and were determined to try to spend time with them? Of
course! You figured out a way.
But I digress, this is about saying NO. When you have self-worth, the
ability to say NO is simple. The response is simply thank you. Or, “no I
appreciate the offer though.”
Heck, you could even leave the NO off the last
one! The point is, when you start to explain away why you’re saying no,
you’re actually internally fearful that the person is going to judge you, or
not be happy, or not like you. You’re afraid of some ramifications that you
are placing on that that aren’t necessary.
So practice the word NO. It’s okay, people like you even when you say NO.
Say it with confidence!
