Fear of Success. Yep. That’s it. Many if not ALL people I work with…and many that are afraid to work with me because I fix this factor….they are afraid of SUCCESS! Let me explain and create some awareness.
One of the 5 Essential Elements of a Bad-Assery Business™, that I focus energy on with my clients, is Vision of Self. It’s been so powerful to watch my psychology background play a critical part in what I do with small business owners and entrepreneurs!
See, your ability to grow your business has LITTLE to do with HOW. You can learn HOW everywhere. Heck, just Google How to….set up XYZ…wa-lah! You can take a million classes about HOW. It’s NOT the problem. Eighteen years coaching and speaking about self-worth and success, it’s about you and your beliefs. (Or as I say in my book: The Influence Factor, it’s about these stories you have created that have become TRUTHS for you)
Fear of success comes from a deep sense of self-worth that one doesn’t deserve it. Doesn’t deserve the accolades, the money, the visibility, the praise, the recognition as an expert…
Oh I know, when in your HEAD you might be thinking: “But Ann, I do deserve it…what are you talking about?”
What does your heart say? Really listen to your heart, deep inside your soul. Get out of your head to grow.
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When you don’t think you deserve it, you do little things to self-sabotage the success. I know, I once was so “in my head” I thought I did deserve success, but when I listened to my heart, and really looked through my heart at my actions, I realized I REALLY did not believe I deserved it.
It was back in high-school for me, I am lucky to have done the work to change it in my early 20’s. In high-school, many people would describe me as a top performer, a super achiever, a winner. But I can now see the truth. I had this tiny voice that believed I didn’t deserve success. So I self-sabotaged.:
- I’d forget the dance routine in swing choir.
- I’d only get a B on a test I could have aced.
- I’d start a fight with a friend that could have brought me into influential networks.
I could go on…but see what I was doing?
I truly did not believe I deserved success. Do you believe you deserve it? Next week I will share with you a powerful checklist for you to review if you may have the fear of success.
Now I include “Vision of Self” as part of the 5 Elements of a Bad- Assery Business™. In college I actually developed my own self-esteem program, and for internship implemented it with college students and a group of 30 women in a tech company in Seattle. I love sharing that work now, and watching my clients SOAR!
