Fighting in a partner relationship is bound to occur. In healthy, great relationships, I believe the “blowout fights” are few and far between. I believe that because it’s true for my healthy relationship! A tiff is different then a fight and if you’re in a relationship I’m sure you get what I mean!

When couples fight, it is so important that you know how to fight fairly. When we have fights, my husband always starts them. (I’m sure he’d say I always start them, LOL.) And as I escalate he doesn’t like to fight fair.

Over the years our “couples friends” have coached him on this. It’s unfair to tell me the relationship is over when we fight. And he has practiced not doing that. The funny thing is? He can find a new way to fight unfairly!

I know this about him, and I realize that he can only get better if I’m willing to have a rational conversation with him after the fight. Are you able to talk with your partner about how you fight to make sure that you’re doing it in a healthy way?