My impression is most people don’t make their beds. Do you make your bed in the morning when you get up? I do. Every single day.
I didn’t used to though. I remember when I was a teenager my Italian grandmother came for a visit. She was in my room and said: “Annie you need to make your bed.“
“Oh grandma, nobody sees it but me. Who cares if it’s made or not?“
“That’s not the point sweetheart, you don’t make your bed in case someone else sees it. You make your bed for you.“
Ever since that day I have made my bed… for me. My husband never makes the bed. When I’m gone, or when I’m home! See, I make the bed for me. That’s what self-worth is about.
Doing it for you.
I am not saying you need to make your bed every day, LOL. (Although I do think a made bed is sexy too!) But the point is important. To have strong self worth you must do things for you. Because it shows you respect you. Because it demonstrates you value you most.
There are little, easy, rewarding things you can do that demonstrates you care about you. That’s having a healthy self-worth.
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Oh my goodness, I hadn’t thought about it that way. But I do feel infinitely better when my bed is made, especially when I come home after a trying day. It’s like a safe place I can escape to.
I so agree with grandma — I make my bed every morning. Part of that is childhood lessons and lots of it is being in the military — I made a “tight rack” every morning. It is interesting how that order works in my day and when rooming with other women. Messy just doesn’t cut it for me.