To be able to set healthy boundaries with friends, family, even work you must love yourself enough. I feel this simple statement can confuse some. I often hear: “I have no problem setting boundaries at home Ann, just at work.”
Is that because you feel safe to set them there? You know THEY will still love you?
Is the fear at work that “they might not like you?” If yes, then I ask: “Do you love yourself enough to be ok if someone doesn’t like you? Do you love yourself enough that being respected at work, with heathy boundaries, matters more?”
When you love yourself you also clearly know what your boundaries are and feel comfortable communicating them. If you struggle with WHAT they are it may be time to look into your self worth and why you believe you cannot have healthy boundaries.
