Too often we can associate intimacy with sex. Not that sex can’t be wildly intimate, but there are other ways to achieve intimacy with your lover. And often the non-sexual ways create the deepest spiritual connection.
For example, this Christmas my husband and I chose to have a home spa day. The goal was simply to nurture each other, and our bodies. We chilled bottle of champagne, and I pulled out every lotion, and scrubber and facial I could find. We made sugar scrubs for each other as well, choosing an essential oil to scent them.
Wearing our robes, with a glass of bubbles, we went through a spa experience together. Deep conditioning our hair, polishing our faces, dealing with those feet! And lastly a full body sugar scrub and shower together.
No sex.
No, that wasn’t the rule! It’s just what naturally happened. Sharing together, talking, laughing, touching each other‘s bodies…scrubbing and cleaning each other. Those things created intimacy. A beautifully deep, soul felt connection.
Intimacy this more often about nurturing the other then it is taken care of your own needs. It’s about the ability to listen, see, touch, and feel. It’s about allowing yourself to be imperfect and complete at the same time.
