In my book, The Influence Factor, I speak to an essential element regarding “knowing your truth.” It is so important that were able to look back at stories in our lives and how we allow other peoples versions of life to become ours. On a deep psychological level, we can embed them as our truth, without recognizing it is happening.
I remember at my Women’s Self-Love Evolution Retreat discussing relationships. The beautiful thing about the women who join me as we create a space where judgment isn’t necessary. This allows us to discuss stories, and change them.
So in discussion we learned that many of us has a different “type” of intimate relationship or partnership, from the traditional story we are told as girls. I shared that it’s really important to know your truth about the kind of relationship that matters to you. Too often we as women are told that getting married and having babies is the right adult relationship. Too often we as women are told that if we don’t do that that there must be something wrong with us.
This was freeing for other women to think that they can write their own.
Who’s story are you hanging onto? Is it really yours? Did you have a negative experience that you converted into a truth and now it keeps happening in your life? Have you asked yourself if this is what you want for you?
Career choices, body image, even your own self love. I even just rewrote a story about “girls are mean!” My first tip with clients is asking them to sit down and draw out the timeline. By doing so you can reflect on where those truths might be coming from. The next step is the harder part. You have to change the story. And that begins by knowing what YOU really want.
