I write quite a bit about boundary setting in my blogs. I find this is a constant topic of conversation with women, whether I am coaching them individually, or leading a program, and even at my Women’s Self-Love Evolution Retreat.
Boundaries can be a challenge for many reasons, and it isn’t just a simple as telling someone it is your boundary. You have to be strong enough to make it your boundary. When you tell someone what your expectation is their reaction is typically not agreeable and positive. Even if they might say: “oh, OK,“ their actions don’t always match that.
I often hear women say they even get pushback when they try to set a boundary. They hear things like: “oh that’ll never work.“ or: “what are you thinking? Nobody does it that way!“
Our initial reaction can be to just give up. Your critic will turn on and rationalize that it just doesn’t work. Here’s what you need to understand:
- “The bad they know, it’s better than the good they don’t now.“
Soak in for moment. I said: “the bad they know is better than the good they don’t know.“ Humans are creatures of habit. We like predictability. We like knowing what’s going to happen next. And they already have a relationship with you. They already know what to expect.
So even if your new boundary is better for EVERYONE involved, they will push back. But sticking to your boundaries is your responsibility, not theirs.
