by Ann Evanston | Mar 10, 2018 | Self-worth
I love spending time in my garden digging in the dirt. Breathing in the gorgeous smells, even of the dirt! Noticing my beautiful flowers in bloom. The Freesia are starting to pop this time of year. My mustard greens are huge!
My garden is deeply spiritual for me. Not only because it feeds us, as I frequently share on social media.
My garden feeds my soul, it calms my energy. It is source.
It is where I draw strength so that I have energy to do more and be more in the world. Most wouldn’t know this of me when I speak, but I am an introvert. And my garden is where I draw energy, get my mind right, set intention. It allows me to be the best me I can be in my work. It is where I vibrate self-love.
How do you nurture yourself?
by Ann Evanston | Mar 3, 2018 | Self-worth
Ouch. Hard one. I can hear some of you now: “But Ann, it IS personal.”
Is it? Really? Why? Because they said it about you? Even to your face?
Isn’t it about them? Their integrity, their values, their way of being in the world? Wouldn’t it be great if we didn’t let them rent space in our hearts and minds?
It is possible. Quite do-able even. It starts with loving yourself enough. Knowing yourself enough. Believing in yourself enough. What if you became a person that wasn’t offended anymore? How would that feel?
by Ann Evanston | Feb 24, 2018 | Self-worth
The journey to Self-Love is more like an onion, understanding the layers of “self” that strengthen YOU. Self-esteem is the inner core. Self-Love is the outer layer. I know that makes no sense, lol, but run with it for now!
Self-Esteem is where it all starts, it’s the seed you are actualizing, loving and BEing the best you in any situation. Self-Esteem, most simply defined , is the relationship you have with YOU. It is how you think and feel about yourself. It is being able to know and like YOU.
The key to Discovering your Self-Esteem is to know who you are….not what you do, or the roles you play. Who you are you take into those other things. And, when you can do that with peace and happiness….show up as you, you have Self-Esteem.
Do you know you? Is she present in all you do?
by Ann Evanston | Feb 21, 2018 | Personal Power
I was watching a reality “singing competition” show, I wrote the now title of this blog. I was suddenly reflecting about women I have worked with over the years. An amazing singer on the show, who has been a back up vocalist for some of the best female artists in the world, was on the show. Her voice was amazing. Her ability to emote was fabulous. Her style and stage presence drew you win.
She had everything to be the star of her life. To live fully connected in her self love. To exercise that in everything that she is and does.
She even made it to the season finale. She came out singing to really hard songs, from powerhouse female artists. (Yes, I’m talking like Whitney Houston hard! LOL)
And that’s when I realized that she was still the back up singer in her life.
She didn’t make them her own. She sang a cover. It was very karaoke. Beautiful voice yes. Superstar no.
And she didn’t win. She did not achieve her dream. I often see women become back up singers in their life. They try so hard to be what someone else is. Because they believe if they could be like that, they will have what they want. They will be happy. Full. Content.
Ultimately, you must be the lead singer in your life. You must be what you are meant to be not somebody else’s version.
by Ann Evanston | Feb 18, 2018 | Boundaries, Relationship
I write quite a bit about boundary setting in my blogs. I find this is a constant topic of conversation with women, whether I am coaching them individually, or leading a program, and even at my Women’s Self-Love Evolution Retreat.
Boundaries can be a challenge for many reasons, and it isn’t just a simple as telling someone it is your boundary. You have to be strong enough to make it your boundary. When you tell someone what your expectation is their reaction is typically not agreeable and positive. Even if they might say: “oh, OK,“ their actions don’t always match that.
I often hear women say they even get pushback when they try to set a boundary. They hear things like: “oh that’ll never work.“ or: “what are you thinking? Nobody does it that way!“
Our initial reaction can be to just give up. Your critic will turn on and rationalize that it just doesn’t work. Here’s what you need to understand:
- “The bad they know, it’s better than the good they don’t now.“
Soak in for moment. I said: “the bad they know is better than the good they don’t know.“ Humans are creatures of habit. We like predictability. We like knowing what’s going to happen next. And they already have a relationship with you. They already know what to expect.
So even if your new boundary is better for EVERYONE involved, they will push back. But sticking to your boundaries is your responsibility, not theirs.
