by Ann Evanston | Sep 24, 2017 | Boundaries
Often working with women a discussion around boundaries comes up. Many women believe they have boundaries, and set boundaries with people in their personal and professional lives. The want to understand why people don’t respect them. I often find though that two things are true:
1-They haven’t really clearly defined what their boundaries are in different situations; be it at work or in relationships at home.
2-And they believe if they communicate them once, that the other person “should” follow them…without push back, attitude, or challenging it.
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So first, take a bit of time, even grab a notebook or journal, and write down what your boundaries really are. How do you want to be treated in relationships at work? With clients? From your spouse or significant other? How about with friendships? Maybe even family members like your siblings, parents and extended family?
If you don’t clearly know in your mind and heart what they are, how can you effectively communicate them when you need to? And, it’s more difficult to follow up if you’re unclear in the beginning.
Then second, as you communicate a boundary concisely and assertively, be prepared for push-back. See, it’s not their job to manage your boundaries. It’s your job to manage your boundaries if you really want them to be true. That means you follow up.
by Ann Evanston | Sep 23, 2017 | Energy, Self-worth
As busy women, we can often forget to take care of ourselves. Heck, I even see women so busy that they don’t eat breakfast because they’re taking care of everybody else! Being able to recognize the importance of caring for yourself, above all others is key. Because when you are your best, you are better for everyone you want to care for.
I run a retreat for women that I adore doing. As the intuitive leader of the event, I put all my strength, love and energy into holding the container where they breakthrough, love more, and learn to be their best selves. I always remember before going to take care of myself, and nurture ME to be ready to do what I do at that retreat.
This last one I forgot to do it coming home. I ran errands on the way back, I prepared for cooking meals when I got home, and I woke up the next day completely worn out. Almost lifeless and used up. I had scheduled a video interview for that day and I knew I wasn’t going to make it.
I LOVE my retreat, please don’t misunderstand. Sometimes you give everything to something you love….as long as you know how to self love.
That’s when we have to know to reach out and ask for what we need and then take care of self. I did exactly that and feel completely rejuvenated. Do you love yourself enough to know when to take care of yourself?
by Ann Evanston | Sep 21, 2017 | Mental Mind Shifts
Over the last two weeks I’ve talked about the energy of success and why it’s important to understand that you consciously control it. A simple tip to be more effective and handling energy is word choice. As you know I frequently say: “you must train your mind to change your life and business!”
For example September is harvest season (one of two major harvest season’s) at our home. My husband and I have a humongous garden! The last three weeks has been hundreds and hundreds of pounds of food that has to be stored, frozen, canned and eaten! It is a ton of work. Here’s where a mental shift in energy makes it fun and easy for me to do.
Shift “I have got to” to “I want to”.
Listen to the difference:
🏼I have got to count those tomatoes today. I want to count those tomatoes today.
🏼I have got to get my blog written for my business. I want to write my blog for my business.
🏼I have got to go to the gym. I want to go to the gym.
The key is to consciously start re-training your mind to think in this positive energy versus the negative energy. This retrains the mind/body connection and over time it will happen naturally as you do this.
by Ann Evanston | Sep 15, 2017 | Self-worth
Stepping into our personal power and owning our self-worth is often a struggle. The key to self-worth is the relationship that you have with yourself. In understanding that definition, the simplest thing to practice becomes clear.
In order to have great self-worth, and shattering confidence (let me be clear: I am not speaking about being cocky!) one must simply do this:
Stop worrying if other people like you or not.
When we get caught up in whether others like what we say, or do, or act, even laugh or dress, we are placing our worth on others and then it isn’t self-worth anymore. You lose yourself trying to be with everybody else want you to be. You will begin to second-guess yourself. You feel disappointed and let down.
The only way to have great self-worth is to know that when you make choices for you, people who truly like you will show up. The ones who don’t like you you won’t worry about anymore.
by Ann Evanston | Sep 14, 2017 | Business Strategy, Mental Mind Shifts
Energy has to be handled effectively in order to achieve greater levels of success. Too often we try to plan and force energy to work the way we need it to based on our “to do list” versus channel or pay attention to energy. ( Be sure to read last weeks post.)
Energy can come from two places. The first being your own energy . And secondly what I call the nine energetic relationships.
When you think about your own energy it’s important to see if your to do list is aligning with what you say “needs to be done.” Greater success will start if you can align your energy with the work that you need to do.
For example, my intense get it done energy is much stronger in the morning then it is in the afternoon. Knowing that about myself means that I can focus on getting key important things done right away…like working out!
Where many women struggle that I work with is understanding that they control their energy daily, as well as monthly and quarterly, which means throughout the year. (And no, I am not talking about your menstrual cycle!) . It’s time to pay attention to your energy and use it effectively and order to achieve what you need to do.
And when a schedule, like my speaking at a conference all day, requires a certain energy level that’s when I can draw upon the nine energetic relationships.
Ultimately, like I said last week, successful people understand how energy works and can handle it effectively in order to achieve what they desire. Are you managing energy, or allowing it to manage you?
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