by Ann Evanston | Sep 13, 2017 | Influence Factor
I believe that in order to have the life you desire, you must leave yourself to become better than yourself. Being influential, more loving, powerful, standing in your self-worth, even trusting that the real you is the one who needs to show up in every situation requires the ability to let go of the old you.
There are some that would argue you need to leave past relationships to change that you are. I’m not going to go that far! I do think though you need to leave you behind. What do I mean by that?
I mean that you need to let go of
🏼old issues,
🏼fights that you’re hanging onto,
🏼resentment you have from people who betrayed you,
🏼guilt that you might be feeling,
🏼loves lost.
You have to let go of patterns that you were hanging onto. You have to leave that you behind that keeps loading on the baggage –it’s time to get rid of it.
Living your best life requires it. Being truly authentic in every situation will demand it.
It is entirely up to you.
by Ann Evanston | Sep 10, 2017 | Relationship
Reaching out is one of the most powerful things that you can do. Reach out to an old friend. Reach out to someone you met at a conference. Reach out to someone you’re connected to on social media.
Yes, send them an email, a text message, a private message, or call them! Yes, I can hear that voice in your head right now: “But Ann, I haven’t touched base with some of these people in forever… how embarrassing would that be?”
“Worse yet, what if they don’t respond back?”
Oh my, what we can do to ourselves to stop creating connections and relationships with others! The most amazing thing if you choose to reach out? And they do respond? You will actually hear how much you mean to other people even when you’re not constantly chatting with them!
I recently reached out to a woman who saw me speak at a conference. When I speak my goal is to always stay for the conference and be a part of the audience. It helps me to create connections with more people. This woman found me on social media, and we’ve been “connected” but not in touch.
[Tweet “Reach out to someone you haven’t connected with, it’s so worthwhile!”]
We had a phone call and it was phenomenal. Although not what I was expecting, she let me know all those years ago that she never forgot me because of how I treated her with simple kindness and respect.
Now we are more deeply connected almost ten years later. And I feel inspired! If you create genuine connections with people, reaching out in simple ways is super easy to do. And oh so worthwhile.
by Ann Evanston | Sep 9, 2017 | Self-worth
Mirrors confuse me. I can look at myself and one mirror and think my hair looks great. And then I see it in another mirror on the exact same day, and it looks horrible! It’s true even in my own home. Why did I buy those mirrors that make my arms look wrinkly and fat!
Oh, my arms look pretty good, nice and defined ….that workout is working! (Different mirror.)
I remember once watching Shark Tank and a woman had invented a mirror that allowed a woman to look her best in it and wanted to sell it to clothing stores. The male Sharks thought it was a horrible idea and so fraudulent they just could not buy in. (But hair extensions, acrylic nails, push up bras….no problem!) Now I’ll tell you, I will take the mirror that makes me look good any day over the mirror that doesn’t!
My point is bigger than just the mirror you buy though. I have to choose to see me as the best me regardless of the reflection in the mirror. You have to know you are great inside, and on the outside. Frizzy hair day, flabby arms, bloated belly and all.
[Tweet “Choose to see your self as beautiful – inside and out.”]
by Ann Evanston | Sep 7, 2017 | Business Strategy
Success is simply ones progressive commitment to a goal or desire. While walking that path, a successful person uses money to realize their goals or desires and to live as they choose. Let me be clear: success isn’t about how much money you make. I don’t care if you make $300, $3000, or $300,000 a month. It’s about how you utilize money to realize your goals and desires and live as you choose, in a happy, easy way.
What differentiates successful people from those that struggle is their ability to understand one important skill. Successful people know how energy works and how to handle it and move it effectively.
Energy exists in several key relationships that we have to be consciously aware of and choose to shift positively. Too often people who struggle to have what they want in their lives allow energy to happen to them rather than make energy happen in those important areas.
Are you consciously connecting your energy? Do you make choices throughout your day to shift positively? Or do you find that people or situations can energetically drain or even impact you negatively?
[Tweet “Consciously connect and shift energy for greater success!”]
by Ann Evanston | Sep 3, 2017 | Relationship
Fighting in a partner relationship is bound to occur. In healthy, great relationships, I believe the “blowout fights” are few and far between. I believe that because it’s true for my healthy relationship! A tiff is different then a fight and if you’re in a relationship I’m sure you get what I mean!
When couples fight, it is so important that you know how to fight fairly. When we have fights, my husband always starts them. (I’m sure he’d say I always start them, LOL.) And as I escalate he doesn’t like to fight fair.
Over the years our “couples friends” have coached him on this. It’s unfair to tell me the relationship is over when we fight. And he has practiced not doing that. The funny thing is? He can find a new way to fight unfairly!
I know this about him, and I realize that he can only get better if I’m willing to have a rational conversation with him after the fight. Are you able to talk with your partner about how you fight to make sure that you’re doing it in a healthy way?
