by Ann Evanston | May 15, 2017 | Mental Mind Shifts, Self-worth
I often find that more of us are afraid of success over failure. Come on, face it! We fail every day! You say you will exercise today…you don’t. Or finish that project….you don’t. The list goes on and on! We fail and then we get up the next day, put those big girl boots on and try again. We fail at big things and little things… All. The. Time. We aren’t afraid. It’s part of life.
Fear of success is more common.
With success comes things that scare us.
🏼Like being SEEN.
🏼Like people who DISAGREE.
🏼Like not being LIKED.
🏼Like those NAYSAYERS
🏼Like TROLLS AND HORRIBLE PEOPLE
[Tweet “We often fear success because of the things that come with it.”]
If you stay safe, where you are:
SEEN but not really;
In DISAGREEMENT but still consensus;
LIKED;
LIKED;
With LIKE minded people all the time….
You will struggle to have the success you desire in your life, love, career. Success means understanding those risks. If you have succeeded you know it’s worth it.
by Ann Evanston | May 12, 2017 | Warrior Spirit
The journey to branding the Warrior-Preneur has become as powerful a part of who I am, as it is a part of my amazing clients and fans. My whole life as been a battle, in many ways, but it wasn’t until I realized that what is happening “out there”, outside of me…I cannot control, the only real battle is inside me.
My world changed. I was no longer a victim of circumstances; I was no longer angry. (Yes, I even went through the “mad at the world stage” and when people would ask, why are you angry? Of course you know my response! “I’m not angry!” Some of you know that angry…the angry when you don’t know you are! Anyway, I digress.
See, when I became the Warrior that fought the internal battles with great courage, even in times of fear, I was able to truly step into my power. To no longer feel alone. To not worry about judgement.
The sword, my Japanese Katana become the symbol. My husband gave me a gorgeous one as a gift. There is glorious meaning behind it, so relevant to what we go through, here is my blog about it. In 2015 I had a vision of me fully undressed, with my sword tattooed on my back. I have never had a tattoo, although Earl has many! I knew in that moment I wanted it. We finished it in 2016. Another step in becoming me.
[Tweet “Fully awaken the sensuality of who you are”]
That led to another internal battle. Learning to be loving of myself and my body, how I am aging, seeing beautiful- turning off the critic. No Photoshop of my pictures to make me a size eight!
Preneur comes from the Latin, prendes, which means to understand, grasp, or capture. As Warriors that is our journey… understanding ourselves greater; grasping on with confidence even in times of fear; capturing the love, happiness, lives and careers we choose. Fully awakening the sensuality of who we are. Connecting with all of us. That is why I work with women to achieve just that. And yes you deserve it.
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by Ann Evanston | May 10, 2017 | Business Strategy
I recall two amazing sessions with clients. Clients who want more, who trust my process, who are rule breakers like me! As a success coach, the balance of what I know works and what you dream for your life is what I bring together.
One said: “I just want to fuck around and make money.” So we talked about her favorite things to do, how they call a tribe and can pay the bills…she’s excited. We looked at a process for “fucking around” to make money fun!
Another said: “I just want to live life on my terms not the rules and games the world has created.” We talked about reinforcing that, and taking what she already has, her knowledge and experiences, and how all the “steps” to success can be redefined to build “living life on her terms”into money. She sold out her first event!
That’s what Warriors do…choose their own path, fuck around, go left instead of right. And guess what? You can be successful doing nothing they tell you! Hell, I am proof!
[Tweet “Choose your own path: go left when they all go right!”]
by Ann Evanston | May 8, 2017 | Business Strategy, Influence Factor
I love giving my talk about #influence and personal power. I love sharing how important visibility is. Too often we think if we “do great work” they will notice. Not so true if you want to attract your tribe and buyers to your business and work. You must choose to be visible. And in this era, it’s even more important than ever toward your credibility. And maybe not in the way you think!
Back in the old days, LOL, we had to go out and get in front of people to be visible. The Internet just wasn’t where it was happening! To that point speaking (which by the way is still a top ROI marketing strategy) was an important strategy to grow your business. Back then we even said that the father away from home you were asked to go, the more credible you were. “Oh….she flew all the way from California to speak to us….impressive!” Visible and influential…from distance. Credible because I was asked to come a distance to share.
I recall a session with a client. She’s done amazing work in truly defining her tribe and purpose, knowing why she’s here and what she wants to do to change the world! And she’s been stuck. In our session I said: “you’re not visible therefore you’re not influential.”
“But Ann, I am getting speaking gigs and talking to tons of administrators about my work.”
“Awesome! And when they go online to research you as an expert, what do they see?
“Well I have my website, I’ve worked hard on it!”
Your website is a small part of the puzzle when it comes to #influence. Today, anyone can build a website …there’s a gazillion free places to do it. Anyone can make professionally designed graphics ….there’s dozens of free places to do it! Anyone can have a Facebook business page, a podcast, a radio show…..anyone….expert or wanna be.
Ultimately though you are influential because you show up in places that aren’t designed by you. You go the “distance”, like my speaking story, in new ways. You comment in expert group discussions on different social media sites. You show up for tweet chats based on your subject matter. You are a guest on a fabulous summit! You submit guest posts to other websites as a contributor. You get interviewed on major radio shows, TV, podcasts!
[Tweet “Go the “distance” and get visible!”]
This is just like the old-school practice of speaking far away from home. You build what we call “social proof”. When someone goes to look you and your work up online, you want to be EVERYWHERE. Suddenly you are influential and seen as the credible expert of choice! (This is a common limiting belief my clients have to overcome to get to the next level of success…is it yours?)
This is why I have created my Media Monday program, it’s a fun way to be accountable to your visibility while growing with other entrepreneurs!
by Ann Evanston | May 6, 2017 | Self-worth
Being me. Loving me, embracing me. Learning that the heart of who I am is good. That I was put here to be the best ME I can be. To embrace why I am the way I am. To letting go of others expectations of how, or who, I “should” be. To not compare myself to others….even Earl!
Yes, even my husband! Everywhere we go everyone says: “Earl is so sweet, he’s so sweet. He’s just such a sweet guy.”
At times my “blabber brain” starts! You know the voice…the one in you head. It never seems to stop. I can hear that “blabber brain” voice: “Why don’t people think I am sweet?”
Shut up voice.
Oh, But that’s not so easy. How many of you have heard you must stop your negative self talk, turn off the inner critic? Heck I once believed that too. We know now that by 30 years of age, the brain isn’t changing that dramatically unless something dramatic happens.
“You mean I will always be a self-fucking critic Ann?”
Yep. Me too.
BUT, I do not have to live by it. Neither do you.
You get it- some days it is so freakin’ hard! There are just days where others quietly challenge who you are. And the VOICE shows up again. And blabber brain just gets so damn loud.
And those are the days I am least happy. Least fulfilled. Least satisfied.
You feel it too.
See, I can make different choices even when the VOICE tests me. Critiques me. Creates self doubt. That’s why in my programs for women, especially retreat, I teach my “Warrior Method” for getting what you desire in life, while being you. Sweet isn’t me…it’s Earl, and I love that I’m spicy! The process I use personally, and teach other women, allows me to choose a best path. Even when my inner critic shows up, as it undoubtedly will. Then I can acknowledge its presence, and still become.
[Tweet “Self-worth comes from embracing the heart of YOU.”]
Self-Worth comes from being able to get through being rattled. To find and embrace the heart of YOU…to indulge in what you know is great about you…no matter what they say. No matter what your brain says.
