by Ann Evanston | May 3, 2017 | Self-worth
Stepping into your personal power is about being able to own what you do and say. A common area where women give up that assertive strength is when there’s a problem. When someone complains about what we do or said, we tend to want to explain why we said it or did it ! Therein lies the challenge.
It makes sense initially to want to explain WHY. Yet, it becomes a place where we can sound like we are defensive and unable to own our part of what happened. It begins to sound like we don’t care about the feedback.
The more we explain our actions, the more we lose our personal power.
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We keep our power when we can say: “thank you for the feedback.” We keep our power when we can say: “let me fix it.” No explanations….because they sound like excuses.
We keep our power when we honor that someone else has every right to think what we said or did was wrong. We own our voice when we no longer have to defend what we did.
by Ann Evanston | May 2, 2017 | Mental Mind Shifts
There’s a time in every person’s life when they need to indulge in being strong. Strong is an interesting word because we start with the personal association to it. I have been indulging in strong when it comes to my physical power.
Personally, I have realized I am mentally and emotionally stronger when I am physically strong. Physically strong creates moments when I realize that my body can do things that I didn’t believe I could. Suddenly my mind is ready to get on board. My heart is filled with excitement for what’s happening next. My desire is stronger.
Due to an extreme back injury I stopped challenging myself physically. (I am going to write about a mindset that turned into a truth in my life later that is related.) I realized that it was time to change that.
Honestly, I just made up my mind.
I got back into the gym. I got back into the gym after having a physical therapist tell me I have extreme muscle deterioration. I have a way of managing my pain that is working for me tremendously. So now I am back in the gym four days a week about 35 to 45 minutes, doing high-intensity, low impact workouts.
Today one of my eight minute high-intensity rounds was push presses. I was able to do 100 push presses with 12 pound weights and not die! LOL.
Let me be clear, I’m not doing this because I want to drop a dress size. I am doing this to be strong. To know what I have in me, and to challenge what I think and know that I can do more. “To be a 10, raise the bar, and be a 10 again.” Oh of course if I fit better in my jeans I’ll be happy to. But that’s a reward.
I find I am more focused, happier, and energized…outcomes of the mindset of strong.
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by Ann Evanston | Apr 30, 2017 | Relationship
Relationships aren’t complicated. Yes, I’m serious! Relationships aren’t complicated at all! People are. Relationships are actually easy. Relationship is just about the state of being connected. Connected is a choice. At any time you can connect and create relationship.
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At any time you can make a conscious choice and connect positively and the relationship is easy. At any time you can let go of what is frustrating about that person, breathe, find happy, and connect. You can also choose to stay in frustration. Stay in our logical minds rationalizing why you’re right, and they are a jerk.
This is true of every relationship. Especially the ones we choose to be in. And important in ones we have to be in.
Are you just reading, or did you connect? Can you take a moment, shift and connect with me the author? As you read? Can you do this on social media?
Now we are in relationship. Feels good doesn’t it?
by Ann Evanston | Apr 28, 2017 | Relationship
When you share what you think or how you feel..powerfully, with love…it is always authentic. Authenticity is an energetic connection.
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Think about others when they express how they think or feel. Can you tell when it’s authentic? It’s that place where even if what they shared was uncomfortable, or you really didn’t want to hear it, you still respect it.
Or Is there just something about them when it’s not quite right? Something in you says “beware”? It could be they did not share powerfully and with love.
Besides, sharing in this way creates healthy boundaries and self worth.
Authentic energy we can feel. So share how you feel. Speak what you think. Do it from a place of love and personal power. Watch how influential you can be. And how good you feel being that person.
by Ann Evanston | Apr 25, 2017 | Self-worth
I have these days. These days when I get up put my contacts in, get dressed go about my morning. I catch myself in the mirror and I think “I’m good looking!” I’m not checking out my sags and wrinkles and cellulite bumps… I just see a beautiful curvaceous woman. And then, I catch myself in a mirror, or take a picture, and I think: “holy shit! I am so fat and out of shape!”
Yes, all on the same day.
It’s funny how we think about ourselves can impact our day. How high we hold our head, how powerfully and beautifully we walk, our energy shifts in a situation. Nobody’s done that to me, I do it to myself! Heck most days my only interaction is with myself!
It impacts our confidence…in the moment. That’s why confidence is a journey!
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You know these days don’t you? Like me, I am guessing you know how unhealthy it is to stay in the latter energy. Like me, shifting out of it and back into “damn I look good!” Is ultimately what we do when we have healthy self confidence.
Are you able to make that happen?
