by Ann Evanston | Apr 23, 2017 | Relationship
It pains my heart to see women being so judgmental of other women and choices they make in their lives. It isn’t our job, nor our duty to understand, or judge. We are meant to love them, whether we understand or agree with the choice.
My life is mine. I choose. You don’t have to agree. I just hope that as a woman you would want to be there, support me, accept me.
So next time a woman makes a decision you cannot understand, or you think is wrong…take a breath, and let it go…and hug her. In person or virtually. And if she changes her mind a few months or years later…take a breath, let it go, don’t tell her I told you so….and hug her.
[Tweet “We are meant to love other women, not judge their choices.”]
Yes, even if you morally disagree. Yes, even if she shared every horrible detail. Yes, even if you would never make that choice.
Life is hard enough as a woman without more hate from other women.
by Ann Evanston | Apr 22, 2017 | Relationship, Self-worth
I recently hit my highest weight ever. I’m a pound and a half heavier than my previous highest weight ever. (For those of you who have weight that cycles, that sentence makes perfect sense!)
The first time I hit my highest weight I wasn’t even sure why. But I know as the weight went up, emotionally, spiritually, sensually, my energies went down. I no longer saw myself as me. I did not love who I had become. It impacted my relationships on all levels of success.
This time has been completely different. I realized that with aging, and having the severe back injury, perfect weight was going to be a tough goal. Heck! And I love to eat and drink as many of you know! (Although my bestie came for a visit and said our “cheat meals” are too healthy, lol! And she’s a nutrition and fitness coach!)
So this last year, limited in what I can do physically, I have worked to embrace my body image. To love what aging looks like. To see my round curves, and sags and dents as beautiful. To FEEL sexy. This time I am. I am vibrant and full of life as a result of that. And all of my relationships are better.
This is why I had to use my own program on myself! Yes, even coaches need some work, a tune up at times! I shifted energetically and all my relationships changed.
[Tweet “Our self-worth is our choice. No one else’s. You have to love you most first.”]
Our self-worth is our choice. No one else’s. You have to love you most first and relationships around you will improve.
by Ann Evanston | Apr 17, 2017 | Self-worth
When we are asked to “speak up”, we are being called to share our true expression of the situation. Be it an opinion for a family member, a thought on solving a problem, or even just a Facebook post!
Too often we think, but we don’t speak up.
Often it’s because there is a fear of what “may happen” when you make yourself vulnerable like that.
And “may happen” suffocates our true value…our self-worth.
It “may happen” they will be mad.
It “may happen” you will look stupid.
It “may happen” they will disagree.
It “may happen” you will hurt someone.
It “may happen” you will not.
It may happen that it will ALL happen. And that’s ok if you shared from a place of love and respect. Because you valued yourself enough to speak up.
[Tweet “Value yourself enough to speak up”]
by Ann Evanston | Apr 15, 2017 | Mental Mind Shifts
Rejection. It can consume us. Eat us alive. Rejection is the worst nightmare to live in. It creates a fear …the fear of being YOU.
So what happens if someone disagrees with you?
So what happens if someone disapproves of a life choice you make?
So what happens if someone doesn’t like you?
So what happens if someone leaves you?
[Tweet “You are the only someone that matters.”]
Think about…someone. Because you are the only someone that matters. You have to sleep with you every night. Don’t reject yourself. That is the ultimate rejection. That starts the cycle of low self-worth.
by Ann Evanston | Apr 12, 2017 | Mental Mind Shifts
When I was a teen in the 80’s I remember going to the fair and getting a “graffiti” picture done that said “Awesome Ann” – it was above my bed for years! Then, in the 90’s, the word awesome become “uncool”.
I can even recall leading a seminar and saying things like “awesome question,” or “awesome answer.”
[Tweet “Awesome is something we should all feel, in life, relationships, work, bed….”]
Someone wrote on the evaluation that I used that “stupid” word too much.
Well that’s just fucking awesome. ( yeah, I use that word too much too!)
Awesome is something we should all feel, in life, relationships, work, bed….
Take back awesome!
