by Ann Evanston | Apr 11, 2017 | Mental Mind Shifts
Good enough is an important mindset. Good enough isn’t a mindset about mediocrity.
Good enough is a mindset that allows you to leap and take the next flight on your journey to success.
When you think it needs to be excellent, or even worse, perfect you will stop yourself from putting out there what you need to. So look at something you’re trying to achieve. Is it good enough? Can you put it out there and keep flying to the next level of success?
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by Ann Evanston | Apr 9, 2017 | Relationship
In my house, my husband has permission to leave the toilet seat up. He puts it up when he goes, and I put it down when I go. He is never scolded for leaving it up.
See, I’d rather him leave it up than sit on a wet spot. (Yes, they all think they have perfect aim.)
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by Ann Evanston | Apr 8, 2017 | Relationship
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Think about that. When you are whole, and complete you are satisfied. Nothing can fill you up until you need you most. You are your best friend. You are happy with yourself. Content alone. Not lonely. Confident in your abilities.
And when you are full like that others are attracted to you. When you are full like that other relationships are easy. When you are full like that you can say no…or yes. Because you choose, not need.
by Ann Evanston | Apr 3, 2017 | Business Strategy
Facebook memories are interesting recently. Three memories were about my visibility, three places where I was interviewed or wrote a guest post, or named on a list as one of the best…all three urls no longer active. Shut down.
All from 2010/11. All entrepreneurs. Most were coaches or had membership programs. All women with dreams. This career choice is not an easy one at all. Hopes and dreams gone for those women. Maybe they weren’t visible enough themselves. I can only speculate.
It also reminded me how grateful I am to have lasted so long! I am grateful to know wh
at it takes to be steady in my business versus the roller coaster many find themselves on. I am grateful to those that believe in me. I am grateful that my business has grown as I grow.
I am especially grateful to my clients. Those that love how I speak on stage and teach others how to grow. Those that trust me with their personal and professional lives, their secrets and fears. Thank you. I am a better woman every day because of you. Thank you for allowing me to be me and support you in stepping into your personal power, unlimited potential and finding your voice!
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by Ann Evanston | Sep 27, 2016 | Speaking Strategy
Can you be authentic and speak on stages? Are you finding that there is the “speaker prototype” you need to fit into? I think as speakers, our being open to the diversity of style is so important.
Let me share my story: I started speaking in the 1990s when the majority of speakers were white males, over 50, in blue suits with red or blue ties. I was actually TOLD : “if you want to be successful you will wear a suit, with hose, and closed toes shoes. And do something with that hair.”
That’s totally unacceptable. It so impacted my self-worth that I changed who I was. I have always wanted to speak. I started in Toastmasters in the seventh grade! This was my calling. And for “professionals” to tell me I couldn’t do it any other way, I changed.
For years I would put on stupid outfits that didn’t fit who I was. I would try to put my hair up to control my natural curls. Don’t get me wrong, I got work, I spoke on many stages looking just generic as ever. Then I had that moment “wake up call” where I realized it needed to change. I was a speaker at a three day conference. I had actually done many videos over the three days. And videos of me before I made the changes versus after our dramatically different!
My energy shifted with speaking and being authentic.
Have you struggled with becoming a speaker and staying authentically you? Have you questioned your style or approach maybe because you aren’t getting the opportunities you desire?
The greatest speakers come from a real space. When I converted to my kick ass high heels, jeans and tank tops on stage everything changed for me. When I stopped being afraid of saying shit on stage…everything changed for me. YES! I swear on stage!
I also remember a particular NSA phase where every speaker seemed to have had an acronym and the same business cards, and presentation style.
That becomes inauthentic. If it isn’t you, why do it…audiences saw through it, and it got tired fast.
Our world, especially with our youth today has drastically changed. How they speak, and how words, especially swear words, are used are not dirty anymore.
I am thrilled that I am surrounded with a bunch of open, diverse, dynamic kick ass event planners and speakers that embrace all differences and styles. Wow that’s an amazing place to be! Becoming a speaker and the authentic you. Yes, yes you can. Just step into your confidence and own it!
