by Ann Evanston | May 8, 2015 | Opinion
Have you ever received an email from a “friend” filled with advice that felt cruel to you?
I did. I was incredibly furious honestly! The warrior in me really wanted to fire back several detailed answers to this email about how far off base his comments were!
Negative and uninvited
See, the advice was not solicited and was, as I read it, incredibly mean spirited. Especially from a person who doesn’t have the business success I have.
[Tweet ” I think Mark Cuban from Shark Tank would call him a “wanna-preneur!”]
This person, that I’ve known for several years, is a “chronic student” of every program out there, but can’t seem to leap and run their own thing. They sell another coach’s program, they still have a “day job. So in my mind this person didn’t have a right to be so critical.
I made a choice about how I handled it of course, I’d like your opinion though!
What would you do with an email that negatively attacked your business with no justification? Especially if it’s from someone who claims to be a “friend?”
If you choose to give your opinion you agree to:
1. Sharing your point of view in a collaborative manner that does not attack others’ opinions.
2. Not “jumping on” someone in the stream because you disagree with their opinion.
3. Sharing in the spirit of sharing! This isn’t about agreement or disagreement, just a safe place to share opinions!
by Ann Evanston | May 6, 2015 | Mental Mind Shifts, Transcendence
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Carl Rogers
I have written before about the importance of learning acceptance versus always having to understand why . But that acceptance, which is important to self-worth, was more about accepting actions and behaviors of others and situations you may not have control over. This quote from Carl Rogers is about fully accepting yourself.
I’m sure I’ve said this to you before but, in case you haven’t heard it or read it, I’m going to say it again!
[Tweet “”When you stand completely alone and naked, in front of the mirror, with just the thoughts in your head, what do you say?””]
Can you stand there in full acceptance?
Acceptance is the cornerstone to a powerful self-worth. Self-worth is the first of the five frames of the healthy bad-assery business that I work on with clients. I find that most
people have a brilliant business concept. Most entrepreneurs know what they’re supposed to contribute to the world. Yet they get in their own way.
Here is a simple example:
Charging a price point and owning a price point begins with acceptance of
yourself. Once you can fully accept you, you’ll be able to charge that price
point with confidence and own it
Do you have something you struggle achieving because you need to work on acceptance of self to be able to change it?
by Ann Evanston | Apr 30, 2015 | Business Strategy, MasterMind
Becoming a skilled entrepreneur is, honestly, the biggest challenge of all. It’s the true implementation of the systems that create your success. I remember the first time I saw Michael Gerber speak, he brought me to tears. Author of “The E – Myth Revisited,” he speaks to this very important point. Michael says: “Most entrepreneurs are merely technicians with an entrepreneurial seizure. Most entrepreneurs fail because you’re working in your business rather than on your business.”
The true skill for success is understanding how to put systems in place that create the business you desire. That’s working on your business, rather than in it.
What’s interesting is there are many speakers and coaches out there that teach systems. Sales systems, marketing systems, branding systems, speaking systems, the systems are endless! You could go to a class or webinar every day of the week and learn about systems!
But therein lies the problem.
[Tweet “Continuously learning about systems confuses implementing systems. And you must implement them to have success.”]
What I find is many entrepreneurs go to a class, learn the system, think they’ve got it down, and then go home and don’t implement.
So what do they do? They take another class. When what they really needed to do was implement the system.
That’s why I love my MasterMind program. In COMPEL. Speak. Sell we focus on the core systems it takes to make your business successful. They are what I call the “5 Frames of a Bad-Assery Business”. Because the participants are consistently working on implementing one system, they are able to measure and monitor results, prove success, and eventually adapt the system to best fit their business needs and desires.
That level of stick-to-it-ive-ness is really important!
by Ann Evanston | Apr 29, 2015 | MasterMind, Mental Mind Shifts
Do you believe in your ability? Can you see how a true unwavering belief in your ability can lead to being even more and greater than you thought? Napoleon Hill, in Think and Grow Rich, says “whatever your mind can believe, it can achieve.” Believing in your ability to achieve what you want, to create what you dream is the first step.
Maybe you’re stuck in the mindset that you need more education and training? Maybe you even fear that you are not enough?
Self-worth requires that you know you are enough – right now. Often when you feel you are not enough you get caught up in doing things that look like progress. But they are not. Things like continuously downloading webinars, taking another class, reading another book in your field or industry.
In my MasterMind, COMPEL. Speak. Sell we focus on the first of the 5 Frames of a Healthy Bad-Assery Business, which is Vision of Self. You must be willing to work on you to have a successful business.
And working on you means believing in what you already have to offer the world.
I’m not saying don’t continue to learn to develop your abilities. I’m saying believe in your ability right now. What you focus on for success will be different when you do.
by Ann Evanston | Apr 24, 2015 | Mental Mind Shifts
I am beginning to fear that social media, especially Facebook, is creating a platform for homogeneous thought and community in our world. I have often noticed that when someone disagrees, has a different opinion, or displays displeasure, people just “unfriend” or even go so far as to block the person!
I have even seen a bullying frenzy in streams where when someone does voice a different opinion. They are attacked and called names by the more common mindset group in that stream. I even had it happen to me, I was called a moron for sharing an opinion that differed. Moron is typically not a work used to describe me.
For me, who really believes in diversity of thinking, education, looks, and lifestyle, it’s scary.
Instead of trying to learn and embrace differences in social media by
asking questions of each other and learning to appreciate each other we just aren’t.
Social media could be such a great place to do so but instead we just remove those differences from our stream.
What’s your opinion? Is social media hurting or helping our ability to respect differences? Should it be a place where we could learn to know each other in very different ways
