by Ann Evanston | Feb 12, 2014 | Influence Factor, Mental Mind Shifts
A Warrior’s journey starts withIN. My journey, as well as the journey of so many clients I have worked with has LESS to do with what they do and MORE to do with finding themselves. I use a timeline technique with many of my clients to help them look at their lives and how their Warriors journey has created who they are and what might hold them back from their true unlimited space and potential.
When I look back at my journey I realize that being strong versus being vulnerable makes sense. We moved a whole lot when I was a kid. I mean a lot! Like every year until I was in the fifth grade. And then it was sixth-grade, middle school, high school, college, still moving and changing, at a slower pace, granted. But I never had the consistency of familiarity that many have growing up.
For me it just didn’t make sense as a kid to get too close to anyone, because I knew I’d have to move on. That for me built up a strength, a way of protecting myself that made it easier to deal with the situations at hand. But now as an adult often people see it is hard, or unbreakable, or not willing to share.
A warrior’s journey starts by going within and understanding this.
What’s interesting is that I have a very special relationship in my life now, my husband. And having someone that I can open up with and be myself on such a real level is amazing. He loves every part of me all the edges all the curves all the good all the bad! He made me realize that the more I show of myself the more love there is around. Okay, it’s not like we had a therapy session and he made me realize that, building this relationship has allowed me to realize it in myself!
Now I am working on being more vulnerable, sharing the struggles, the things that scare me…SCAREY and good at the same time…opening up how I feel to others that I used to never let in.
I have started, in my Women, Wine, Wisdom MasterMind, and with clients. The break throughs seem unreal (but that’s another blog).
Do you struggle with vulnerability, have you looked at your life and your introspective journey as to why who you are has created lessons for your life and passion? Might this be true for you?
by Ann Evanston | Feb 6, 2014 | Mental Mind Shifts
In my “Creating Confidence and Content” program I am honored to teach people what it means to own your worth. I have a phrase I am known for saying, “stop chasing nickels to make a dime!” I don’t care what kind of business you are in, selling a bar of soap, or a coaching service–> if you are chasing a nickel to make a little bit more money you will never make the money you deserve.
Yes, I said deserve. Not need, not want, deserve. And if you have confidence and you own your worth, you know you deserve it.
I work with several clients who make soap and one assignment I give them to get them to the next level is to write regularly for me. Yes I give all my clients this assignment, my soapers more resistant than others, LOL! Recently, a client who’s been working with me for eight months, had her wake up call. The alarm goes off at 4:30 AM on a cold Saturday morning, and she is rolling out of bed to go to the farmers market to sell her soap. And guess what? (4:30, cold Saturday morning, already a wake up call, got it *wink*) Guess what though? She averages between $100 and $200 at that farmers market.
No you do the math: she gets up at 4:30; so work has started…think about her hourly wage here…she packs her car, she drives to the market, she hauls the stuff to her vendor area, she unpacks it, makes it look pretty, she talks and gets a few dollars and sells few bars, she loads it back up into her car and drives home 3 PM….or later
To make between $100 and $200. Hmmm….
Now her wake up call was about something else I say ALL THE TIME: “your job is to market and sell. This made her realize why…time IS MONEY. I think when you own your worth, it is easier to say yes to the things that accumulate wealth, versus work almost 12 hours for $100-$200.
What can get in the way from your ability to own your worth?
I am giving you this great content and it doesn’t cost you a PENNY! At the same time, it isn’t free! Here is what I ask:
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by Ann Evanston | Feb 5, 2014 | Mental Mind Shifts
Wow it’s amazing when you step into your unlimited space and potential the Bad-Assery opportunities that can happen!
I chose to go completely outside my circle to meet different people and step into a space of greater wealth and attraction than I currently have ( and I do alright by most peoples standards! 6 figures for many years.) and it was amazing. Being around people who are really making it happen, not just hoping for it to happen. Being around people who are stepping to the next level in their businesses and not afraid to invest and make the changes they need to make. Being around people who hear what you’re doing and have a dialogue with you because they are not threatened and you can learn from each other and grow at the same time.
My energy just flowed into space like that it was so exciting to be around. I am the potential that was in that room. I deserve the greatness that was around me. I saw the next level of Bad-Assery. Amazingly, what has happened for me is I have truly transcended where I was, versus just transforming. That night in my room I cried. I shredded away something that needed to be let go of.
Many of us go to workshops, of events, retreats, or even read books and publications and we feel we transform on some level. We are inspired to change, to do things differently when we get back to work. And then we get back to work and we transform to the way we were before we were at that event.
See for me transformation is like a chameleon you can transform to one way and you can also transform back to the way you were.
It’s time to transcend where you are at. Transcendence means that you can be in the space that you are in yet you are never the same again. I have transcended the space I was in 2013, and I will never go back to the way I was. That is Bad-Assery.
And then it dawned on me that I have always done: shown women how to transcend their space and potential. I was a youth counselor right out of college working with abused and neglected teenage girls, and I know I have transcended their lives. I have worked with pregnant women, women in prisons, I’ve served on leadership boards and committees, and I’ve watched people transcend through a step-by-step process with me, and they have transcended. I have always done this work. And I own that work now.
Are you ready to transcend, to truly be the Bad-Assery you are meant to be? Or do you keep just transforming and then often going back to the old version of yourself that you no longer want to be?
by Ann Evanston | Jan 29, 2014 | Mental Mind Shifts
What is your “Mental Toughness” Quotient? Have you ever thought about that? Should it matter when running a business? ABSOLUTELY! There are many ways to test your mental toughness. I think it is best to test it outside your work, and explore it in other areas.
For example, if you’re following my blog, I shared with you recently that my husband and I decided to do a strict six week cleanse. This is a perfect example of Mental Toughness and testing it. It takes a huge mental mindset to commit to eating in a way you typically don’t!
So today is the third day, and I’m definitely detoxing! Caffeine is what I miss the most, and I really don’t drink much of it every day, just my morning cup of coffee, so I really want back. But I committed to the six weeks. The discipline of doing what I committed to doing, even when I DON’T want to do it is coming up for me. I even went into the tea cupboard this morning and pulled a bag of green tea. I looked at it, I debated, I know it has caffeine in it, I argued that it’s not near as much is coffee, and then I put it back and got some herbal tea. Mental Toughness.
That’s what I talk about in my book The Influence Factor and really knowing your true self. I could have had the cup of caffeinated tea. My husband is already gone to work, nobody would have known but me. (The lies we tell ourselves, remember that from the book!) But it was okay it is a small amount there are no calories in it blah blah blah!
No caffeine, that is the agreement I made with myself. For six weeks. Mental Toughness.
My husband is missing salt. Now again, I would argue that we probably use less salt in food than many people do. We cook all our own food–> we don’t buy processed prepackaged food so just salt we add anyway. And last nights dinner looked beautiful as you can see from the picture! And as he said if it had some salt it would’ve been amazing! It would’ve been easy to get saltshaker just sprinkle a little bit on, but we didn’t.
See doing something like this is powerful because if you can have the mental toughness and discipline to gets through something like this. To truly get through it–> no lies, no secrets. When you make it happen you’re showing yourself the ability to achieve something that isn’t necessarily easy. And guess what? Running a business isn’t easy! Being true to yourself and the promises you make to yourself and what you want to achieve isn’t easy! I think running a business takes a huge amount of mental toughness.
What could you do to achieve greater mental toughness? To challenge your mental toughness quotient?
by Ann Evanston | Jan 23, 2014 | Influence Factor
Finding the power of knowing who you are can be the biggest challenge stepping into your business success. I had the honor of seeing Lisa Nichols speak. If you’re not familiar with who she is, her story is a dynamic and compelling one for anybody who wants to be at the next level in their lives.
As I listened to her talking about how we each have the ability to be exceptional, and unstoppable, and even crazy I realized how important what I do is. See, at my monthly event I ask questions that make women in business feel uncomfortable (and that is another word she used regularly in her presentation was her job is to make you feel uncomfortable), because I want you, as a woman to find the power of knowing who you are . On my vision board in 2013, one of my core values is incite yes with a C not an S because I realized that stretching the zone of comfort, getting out of comfort is how we play a bigger game. See, my vision, in the true spirit of MasterMind is :
For Women of the World to come together in Collaboration versus Competition, to See and Grow in Abundance and Love, in the Spirit of Togetherness, while Honoring INdividuality.
So if you have been to my monthly wine event and you’ve been asked one of those questions that makes you uncomfortable now you know why I ask. I often start the event by telling you that many women will cry at least once at my event! Does that make you uncomfortable? Do you think that networking is about being an image of perfection for others? Are you willing to get uncomfortable be real within your self and share?
Because when you do we all grow with you, and step into the power of knowing who you are. And when one woman does, in a circle with others we all grow. And guess what it might feel crazy, but crazy is where greatness begins.
A Warrior’s journey starts withIN. My journey, as well as the journey of so many clients I have worked with has LESS to do with what they do and MORE to do with finding themselves. I use a timeline technique with many of my clients to help them look at their lives and how their Warriors journey has created who they are and what might hold them back from their true unlimited space and potential.
