by Ann Evanston | Dec 3, 2017 | Relationship
It’s easy to end a professional relationship when it’s no longer on good terms. But what about a professional relationship when you’ve been on great terms? Often, you just know in your heart and mind it’s time to move on. It’s not because you dislike people, or the work. It’s just time.
When you enjoy the relationships, it’s important to make smart choices when moving on. We’ve all heard the phrase “don’t burn the bridge.“ and I think most of us get that. The hard part is dealing with our emotions. We’ve grown to like and care about people. So as much as our spirit knows it’s right, our heart is saddened by the loss that is happening.
This is when it’s most important to communicate what you’re doing, and stay fully engaged until you leave. Participate. Laugh and love with everyone in the group you’re leaving. Role model what you’ve been when you were fully engaged and weren’t intending to leave. Why?
You keep integrity and respect aligned. You show others that you were worth every moment. You keep relationships healthy even when it’s time to move on. And if you ever need to come back, you’re always welcomed with open arms.
Besides, it’s awful to just die off and slither away.
Yes, you might still be sad, but you will be happy and proud of how you left
by Ann Evanston | Nov 30, 2017 | Energy
Working with many high tech and science-based industries, I see very few women in leadership. Even this week, while teaching a class to women, we are in agreement: the few women that there are in these leadership roles have taken on masculine characteristics and have lost who they are as women.
When I ask women what they feel about those role models, they are disappointed. They want to believe that women can lead and still be women.
Guess what? They can. Research even shows that women who balance feminine and masculine characteristics and energies are more respected and admired in the workplace and also have increasing opportunities versus women who are too masculine. Or too feminine, but we rarely see that in higher levels of leadership.
Do you know where you lean? Are you too feminine? Or too masculine? I naturally tend to lean more towards masculine energy. So I’ve worked through exercises that help me balance with the feminine. I work on feminine energy. I listen to my husband when he says it’s time to “put my dick away.” I check in and ask what I am feeling so I am more aware.
At my retreat you will learn about your own energy and what characteristics you use. You will find techniques that allow you to balance them better. You will leave balanced. Join us.
by Ann Evanston | Nov 28, 2017 | Mindsets
Assertiveness begins with having certain mindsets. As women, we must be willing to overcome perceptions and stereotypes that come with speaking up. The more we believe that those perceptions are true the less likely we are to have healthy boundaries, and ask for what we want, or need.
We must first believe that speaking up is a good thing. We must also know that asking for what we want or need, or speaking what we believe or feel is our right. We must believe that what we value is worth standing up for. We must know in our minds, that whether somebody agrees or not is perfectly OK. We also believe that it’s OK if someone doesn’t like what we say.
With these mindsets it is easier to express yourself in an assertive manner.
by Ann Evanston | Nov 26, 2017 | Intimacy, Relationship
Receiving unconditional love is a rare and precious thing. The realization of having it in my life has been so gratifying.
My husband loves me no matter what. He is my number one fan, and biggest champion. He believes I can do anything, and supports the things that I want to do 100%. His love goes deeper than that though.
He loves me when I’m dressed up and looking fabulous.
He loves me when I haven’t showered for three days!
He loves me whether I’m 150 pounds, 120 pounds.
He loves me with make up on, he loves me with make up off and he thinks I’m beautiful either way.
He’s loves me when I cook dinner, and he loves me when I say I’m not in the mood for cooking.
The love is unconditional.
Having unconditional love from someone else requires that your first unconditionally love yourself. I even went through this with my husband; he couldn’t love me that deeply when I was blocking it with my own self hate.
Where do you need to love yourself more so that you can receive the love you want?
by Ann Evanston | Nov 25, 2017 | Self-worth, Sexy Saturday
I love talking with women about being sensual. It amazes me how many associate sensuality with sexuality. The two are very different things. And together they are quite powerful!
Sensuality, is simply the ability to engage all of your senses. So a sensual woman understands that when she is fully present in her mind body and spirit she can connect sensually. A sensual woman realizes that to be so she must feel, touch, see, hear and smell.
It’s such a woman that can turn this on whenever she wants to. She’s consciously connected in everything she does. Sensual woman realizes that when she does turn it on the things she is doing are far more exciting and peaceful.
Yes those two things can happen in synchronicity. Because when we are, the being in what she is doing overrides any of the work. It is the way to BE in any thing. In any situation. It’s the way to have great pleasure in your life.
