by Ann Evanston | Nov 11, 2017 | Sexy Saturday
For me, there is nothing like a great pair heels. I love the beauty of them. And I love walking with confidence as a strong alpha female in a great pair heels. I know heels are not for everyone, although often I find when I speak to women that they admire them from afar! Even if they cannot wear them like I do!
High heels just make me feel sexy. There’s just a different way I carry myself. You know though? I probably don’t even need to wear them out to feel that! Heck! Let me just put them on and lay around the house!
My point is discovering what makes you feel sexy. Something you do for yourself, versus something someone does to you. I put on heels for me. Not for my husband.
What do you do to tap into sexy?
by Ann Evanston | Nov 10, 2017 | Balance, Energy
So many speaking engagements in the last two weeks discussing influence and power. While working with leaders, especially women wanting to step into the higher levels of excellence in their careers and businesses, I realize that there’s a common theme that still happens for many women.
As we look up and out for a role models who look like us -many of them have become more masculine in their energy. Even how they talk and dress shows us less feminine energy.
The crazy part is that research actually shows that women who demonstrate too much masculine energy as they become more visible in their careers are less admired and respected. But if what we always see in front of us is that masculine energy then we think it’s what we need to become.
I would challenge any woman to learn how to balance feminine and masculine energy in order to achieve their career and business goals. I am a strong alpha female and can naturally lean toward masculine energy. When I put a conscious effort into balancing them, I immediately have greater connections, stronger relationships, and more immediate buy-in from my tribe and people I need support from.
That’s the power of balancing energies.
by Ann Evanston | Nov 5, 2017 | Boundaries
While facilitating my Influential Voice program this week, a women said: “it seems so selfish Ann, and I think selfish is bad.”
I find this isn’t an uncommon statement from women.
Selfish is a good thing on many levels:
👉🏼when you need to rest, nurture or take care of you;
👉🏼to have healthy relationships, you set boundaries for your self;
👉🏼for advancing your career;
👉🏼while developing connections for greater influence
So be selfish on occasion.
by Ann Evanston | Nov 4, 2017 | Self-worth
My impression is most people don’t make their beds. Do you make your bed in the morning when you get up? I do. Every single day.
I didn’t used to though. I remember when I was a teenager my Italian grandmother came for a visit. She was in my room and said: “Annie you need to make your bed.“
“Oh grandma, nobody sees it but me. Who cares if it’s made or not?“
“That’s not the point sweetheart, you don’t make your bed in case someone else sees it. You make your bed for you.“
Ever since that day I have made my bed… for me. My husband never makes the bed. When I’m gone, or when I’m home! See, I make the bed for me. That’s what self-worth is about.
Doing it for you.
I am not saying you need to make your bed every day, LOL. (Although I do think a made bed is sexy too!) But the point is important. To have strong self worth you must do things for you. Because it shows you respect you. Because it demonstrates you value you most.
There are little, easy, rewarding things you can do that demonstrates you care about you. That’s having a healthy self-worth.
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by Ann Evanston | Nov 3, 2017 | Business Strategy, Vision Values Purpose
I know. Every successful person you’ve ever read, watched on stage, been mentored by or coached tells you: “you must set goals in order to have what you want in life.“
Believe me, I am a goal setter and I am very driven and disciplined when it comes to my goals.
Sometimes though a goal can actually get in the way of success. Sometimes you can be so focused on achieving your goal, but you don’t see how you are dropping other important things around you that will actually improve your life, career, and happiness. Sometimes you can be so driven to get your goal done, that you do not see opportunities that make life easier and therefore more successful.
For example, I set a goal to blog three times a week this year. Since I started it I have successfully written and posted three blogs or week! I have been very focused and disciplined to achieve that goal. The reason why was to increase organic traffic to my website. And guess what? Blogging three times a week does that. It works! So I keep blogging. Also it’s so close to the end of the year, it would be horrible to fail!
But the goal got in the way. I stopped updating website content. I never got my speaker page up as well as other simple updates. I got behind on emailing my list old and new connections. Because the writing three times a week has zapped my writing energy. So who cares if I’m driving more organic traffic if the website isn’t updated! Who cares if I am list building if I never email them!
Sometimes one must look further into their goals. Are they really achieving what you want?
