by Ann Evanston | Jun 22, 2017 | Self-worth, Vivrant Woman
4:30 AM. That is when our alarm clock goes off during the week. Oh don’t get me wrong I’d rather sleep in a little later, LOL!
We get up and instantly put on our gym clothes and go to the gym. We get in about 45 minute workout before heading home so Earl can get ready to go to work in time to catch his train into the city.
I am really excited when the alarm goes off at 4:30 AM. But when we walk out of that gym about 5:40 AM, I feel great!
My brain is focused, I am energized, and excited for the day.
The point of the story isn’t how early you get up. The point is what you do to energetically set the tone for your day. See, I find if I just roll out of bed slowly…wake up slowly…my day is slow.
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by Ann Evanston | May 18, 2017 | Mental Mind Shifts, Vivrant Woman
In everything we choose our energy. Too often we are unconscious of the energetic choices we make. It is quite possible to be conscious and choose to shift and transfer different energy in a situation!
Yes you can shift to negative, that’s not my goal with you though! Negative energy is around us all the time, it’s how we can shift to the positive instead of feeding the negative energy with even more.
Like when your significant other is being poopy. Unconsciously we may feel frustrated, even snipe back, or shut down. Transferring more negative energy. Turning an evening into an unfun, disconnected, negative night.
Or you can consciously choose to let it go, shift to positive, and change the energy. If you’ve done it you know it works. Poopy goes away.
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This is also true in any situation. When you focus on the negative you grow more negative. I recall in a program I was speaking. The room had tons of background noise, almost like construction. I chose not to focus on it. Putting my positive energy into the room and participants.
Another speaker mentioned it to me privately. Even said she’d go complain for me and see if there was another room. I simply said: “thank you, I’m just choosing not to focus my energy there, and creating a space where people don’t notice.” Later she interrupted the group and asked them! And guess that their response was: “I really didn’t notice it until you pointed it out.”
When you choose you can change any situation. Yes, you have that power within you.
by Ann Evanston | Aug 9, 2016 | Vivrant Woman
Being me. Loving me, embracing me. Learning that the heart of who I am is good. That I was put here to be the BEST me I can be. To embrace why I am the way I am. To letting go of others expectations of how, or who I “should” be. To not compare myself to others….even Earl! Yes, everywhere we go everyone says: “Earl is so sweet, he’s so sweet. He’s just such a sweet guy.”
Some days the blabber brain starts! You know the voice…the one in your head. It never seems to stop. I can hear that voice: “Why don’t people think I am sweet?”
Shut up voice.
But that’s not so easy.
How many of you have heard that you must stop your negative self talk, turn off the inner critic? Heck, I once believed that too. We know now that by 30 years of age, the brain isn’t changing that dramatically unless something dramatic happens.
“You mean I will always be a self fucking critic Ann?”
Yep. Me too.
BUT, I do not have to live by it. Neither do you.
You get it- some days it is so freakin hard! There are just days where others quietly challenge who you are. And the VOICE shows up again. And blabber brain just gets so damn loud.
And those are the days I am least happy. Least fulfilled. Least satisfied.
You feel it too.
See, I can make different choices even when the VOICE tests me. Critiques me. Creates self-doubt. That’s why in my Vivrant Woman program I teach my “Warrior Method” for getting what you desire in life, while being you.
The process allows me to choose a best path. Even when my inner critic shows up, as it undoubtedly will. Then I can acknowledge its presence, and still BEcome.
Self-Esteem comes from being able to get through being rattled. To find and embrace the heart of YOU…to indulge in what you know is great about you…no matter what they say. No matter what your brain says.
by Ann Evanston | Aug 2, 2016 | Influence Factor, Vivrant Woman
I have always been a “selfish woman”. At an early age I saw the value of taking care of myself to be better for others. Maybe it was watching my mom never really have a sense of the beautiful butterfly she really was. Having a selfish space and time for her “self” in her home was actually locked in the bedroom that she shared with her abuser. To this day I still don’t think she been able to claim her space as her own. Yes, she has her home, and is in it every day, it feels like a safe prison versus a space to nurture, grow and be creative. It isn’t a cocoon that allows for transcendence.
As I started my career out of college, counseling abused and neglected teenage girls, I learned about the importance of my own “Sacred Space”. My home was always this “cocoon” of sorts. It is a place to tuck away and “Be Selfish”. And as my career evolved and I worked with more and more women under stress, loss, frustration, and loneliness that space was very important.
But, like I share in my book, The Influence Factor, I had to Empower my truth to truly have a space that created my cocooning and transcending (like the butterfly). See, my “real life” stopped me from creating this sacred space. Not one, but two house fires, the destruction of space, of things with meaning all gone, led me to believe that “space” really did not matter, that things were not that important. Truly claiming my space was not important for many years of my adult life. I not unlike my mother had a safe prison, one that did not allow me to cocoon and transcend. That’s what the caterpillar does correct?
When I had to change this story forever. In order to become the woman I am meant to be in the world, I needed a space that was filed with beauty, energy, love, abundance. Getting in touch with the true spirit of “who” I am allowed me to create a space that was 100% all mine.
One cocoon is my home office. It is a glorious space full of light and natural wood and inspirational quotes and color. (Feisty Red is the primary wall color if you were wondering!) This room has changed my life and business tremendously! It welcomes me every morning. It encourages my creativity. It nurtures the speaker and coach in me. And selfishly, it is all mine.
So many women take their space and its purpose for granted. There is no conscious ritual to creating it. I live with intention in my entire home now. I have taken each room that thought about the parts of me that need to be nurtured in that space. I have done little things that allow me to walk into that space and be reminded of its intention. I have many sacred spaces in my home now. Each one that engage my senses, awaken creativity, allow me to BEcome. As I have transcended once again and work with sexy, bold, brilliant women wanting more in life…this was necessary!
Do you have a sacred space? A cocoon that energetically allows you to transcend?
Since 1997, I have traveled the world speaking to audiences of women about stress, owning their lives, being empowered and happy. I recall once teaching a seminar in Bath England. A woman came to me at the break wanting to speak privately, tears in her eyes. She shared with me a story of how lost she is, pulled in every direction in her life. Her manager, her husband, her mother, her children all seemed to take priority in her life. She wanted to take care of herself first for a change and wanted a resource to take with her, something that could help her learn to care for who she is. That’s why I am called again to bring my psychology of success and self-worth back to women once again. Today I meet women just like her. Beautiful, amazing women, with no place to call their own. That’s why Vivrant Woman was created.
The Vivrant Woman program will allow you to find YOU I all that is your life.
If you are a woman like me who has always created space for yourself, this is still for you. Each of you will discover a path to creating a deeper level of self-love and nurturing. Each of you will find a way to change your life and live with purpose….even every day.
Are you ready to transcend? There is power in having an external space that creates that intention. That cares for the deepest part of who you are. Be Selfish. I believe every woman should. Greater self-love and nurturing leads to greater other love and happiness, and you deserve it. You deserve nirvana and happiness. I am sharing Vivrant Woman with a group of women currently, the branding is coming, more writing about the process to truly transcend will be in my blog as well.
Curious? Want to be a part? Email me!
by Ann Evanston | May 12, 2016 | Vivrant Woman
Indulgence. Today for my MasterMind training call, (my Bad-Assery Business MasterMind) I pulled out this work I am doing with women. I have been sharing bits and pieces about how I have to stop ignoring what the universe is telling me and focus on my calling.
The call was all about “Worth, Self, and Money.” I shared how they are interconnected psychologically, spiritually and emotionally.
I shared the Warriors Spirit, and the 3 things necessary to be on your authentic path. ⭐
I enlightened the group on essential questions one must ask to see their success. ⭐
I redirected our relationship with goals and therefore money in our careers.⭐
We reconnected values to spirit and our actions on our path. And saw that action creates passion. (not the other way around!) We saw why we hide our true selves from the world, and began steps to BE all the time.
We looked at how our truths are distorted, and how to fix them, with excellence over perfection.
I shared personal stories that the women really reacted to! I am so excited doing this work!
Are you called to step into your greater self as a woman? Indulge in what you’re called to be (this has nothing to do with being an entrepreneur. Corporate, non-profit and government women are welcome)? Want people to SEE, HEAR, and acknowledge your best self?
The work was truly juicy!
I invite you to join me in my new program (revived from my work with women over the years): “Indulgent Woman: Career, Money and Relationships: Stepping into The Best YOU with Confidence, Charisma, and Control!”
This is just part of what my 6-month program will do for women! It launches in June, only FIVE of the 10 spaces are left! Email me to learn more.
I want you to indulge in your life!
